"Big Girls Don’t Cry" sung by Fergie is the newest song on my singing list. It is a girl who sees the value in sharing something special with someone special for a time. Knowing that the time comes to an end and finding the strength to move on to concentrate on herself and her life again even if it takes some adjusting to. Why can’t we all love this way? Realizing that it is within us to deal with our needs and not thrusting the responsibilities of our needs on someone else? Relationships have become so much about emotional needs and dependence rather than just connecting with someone. Can’t we rise above that? In the song, she feels real emotions. The song implies that the passion is real and so is the loss. She misses him but she needs to think of herself. It’s not about him personally, it’s about her personally. And it’s not easy but to me there is realism about life and love laced throughout the song. People don’t seek out reality in romanticism; they seek out the fairy tale. When real life doesn’t pan out this way, we think it’s the person. Eh, sometimes it is, sometimes it isn’t. It just isn’t realistic to have those expectations and relationships don’t survive on obligations. Check out these lyrics..everyone should be this mature about letting go.
The smell of your skin lingers on me now
You're probably on your flight back to your home town
I need some shelter of my own protection baby
To be with myself and center, clarityPeace, Serenity
[CHORUS:]
I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, myself and I
We've got some straightenin' out to do
And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry
The path that I'm walking I must go alone
I must take the baby steps 'til I'm full grown, full grown
Fairytales don't always have a happy ending, do they?
And I foresee the dark ahead if I stay
[CHORUS]
Like the little school mate in the school yard
We'll play jacks and uno cards
I'll be your best friend and you'll be my Valentine
Yes you can hold my hand if you want to
'Cause I want to hold yours too
We'll be playmates and lovers and share our secret worlds
But it's time for me to go home
It's getting late, dark outside
I need to be with myself and center, clarity
Peace, Serenity
1 comment:
The song does have a great message (even though I'm not a fan of the Divine Miss F--but I do respect that she co-wrote it). People do need to come back to center and breathe deeply before moving on again. But first they need to realize they can--and should--move on. One of the last things Carrie said in SATC is: 'The best thing you can do is love you for who you are. And if you can find someone who loves the you that you are, then that's fabulous.' Amen, sista!
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